What we nurture is what we get. It is one of the “hacking laws of human behavior.” The human being is not a mystery.
Most people of the world expect discipline. Most of the world admires strict rules and rulers because to them strictness is synonymous with strength. But in reality the only strength the human being has is the freedom to change.
The world is just and God is just. As the old lady said in driving Miss Daisy, “Everybody’s bill comes due.” There are no free rides. Everybody comes to the planet with something to learn.
The self-image is a development that takes many years and builds on a family paradigm in which we were born. In a college classroom often times I ask students if someone were born and reared their entire life on a farm what are they most likely to be when they grow up? The students always reply, a farmer. Then I asked them if a child were brought up in New York City in a multi generational banking family what will they most likely be when they grow up? The answer always is: a financial professional. And so it goes. What we nurture is what we get. It is one of the “hacking laws of human behavior.” The human being is not a mystery. We come from the planet Earth, whatever we plant that’s what we will reap. If we plant melons we will get melons. If we plant corn we will get corn. If we plant pornography we will get a mind that denigrates the human being into something to be used and discarded like a piece of waste. Whatever we plant that’s what we shall reap.
This causes a bit of consternation because if it takes 15 or 20 years to develop a specific self image-it should take an equal amount of time to change that self-image. But there are ways of hacking the brain. Hacking the brain allows us to speed up the process of change.
If you were to Google the number of people who won the lottery throughout the United States, you will discover that their lottery-wealth is eventually reduced to what they had and had been before the lottery. You see someone cannot be more than who they are regardless of the affirmation they make on New Year’s Eve. I’m sure an individual with their affirmation on New Year’s Eve is very sincere for the moment but it is impossibility for them to overcome 20 years of being a farmer or being a banker. We’ve always heard the adage that once somebody earns their first million earning their second, fourth, or fifth becomes very easy and that’s because they have now become a millionaire within their self-image. It’s like somebody going to college for six years, eight years, 10 years-and becoming a teacher, becoming a surgeon, becoming a doctor, becoming a counselor, becoming a biologist, becoming a chemist. The keyword here is becoming! One cannot become more than who they are. So the individual that is not a millionaire, he is a thousand-air who will not be able to keep the millions that they win in a lottery. It is impossibility. What you plant is what you reap. It is a law of “hacking the brain.” What happens with the thousand-air who wins $1 million in the lottery is that they will gradually lose the money until they return back to who they are and how they see themselves. Why does that happen? Because the subconscious paradigm of who we are and who we have learned to be and who we have learned to earn to be continually draw us back into the image of who we are-teacher, preacher, baker candlestick maker.
There are ways of hacking the brain or short-circuiting the amount of time it takes to be, something different than who we were. In order to do this, we must somehow trick the subconscious brain into believing that what we have committed ourselves to is unconditional. Keyword is “unconditional!” “Once the subconscious knows that there is no returning, the subconscious will submit to the power of growth.” It takes more than a commitment of words to change behavior. Talk therapy will not and cannot change behavior. It is an impossibility. One cannot walk into a field and say please grow potatoes, please grow carrots, please grow melons-it does not work. We can only reap and become what we plant. There are systems that can be developed called “sticks and carrots” that can change the subconscious thought into creating the human being that we would like. We can even change our children? Ah, the 6 days war.
Talking about sticks and carrots, I watched the film “Gandhi” the other day. It was all about the man that changed the world with “non-violence.” Garbage. Gandhi was only able to intervene and make change because the British Empire had developed a form of government that was just and was focused on human Christianity. If Gandhi was to attempt his form of change on a form of government called national Socialism (Nazi Germany not Obama National Socialism) we would not even know his name today. There was one little speech Gandhi gave that said, “We can give them our bodies. We can give them our bones. But they cannot have our willingness to obey.” Garbage. Gandhi had never met Adolf Hitler, Pol Pot’s Khmer Rouge, Mao Zedong, Uncle Joseph Stalin, and maybe someday uncle Obama and his camps for the old and tired and objectionable.
How to hack the brain to form a different self-image and different patterns of behavior will be shared in the next blog called hacking the brain part two. How to change who we are or how to change who our children may become will be important to the parent. But unlike Gandhi’s lies and Adolf Hitler’s forthright, this process of hacking the brain must have a freedom of choice or the subconscious brain will not capitulate. Key word is “unconditional!” As long as a person or child sees themselves as a slave, they will resist the tyrant regardless of “how kind the tyrant is.” Right, Adolph?
Remember, everyone was sent to the planet with something to learn. Everyone. No one person is exempt. Like death. No escape pods. What we plant is what we reap.
Next week we I will define “unconditional.”
This is Dr. B reminding you that we are not alone.